Letting go of fear
Many books and articles are all over the place, preaching about how to let go of fear. There are techniques too which offer step-by-step solution, which make you brave and face an impediment which is currently haunting you, and affecting your life, career and relationships. But it is easier said than done. Most of the time people start following a technique with great gusto, only to lose interest after a few days with the oft used excuse around the globe, “Where is the time!” And they are back to their fearful ways.
So let’s face it. Fear is too intrinsic an emotion to be tackled with a few steps of techniques. It will go when it has to. You need to have patience for that moment, and not get worked up, making it all the more easy to stay with you, well-ensconced in a safe crevice of your mind, gnawing at your useful, productive energy. Just hold on. It may take a couple of months or days depending on how much you ignore it. Yes, you heard that right. The more you don’t think about it and give it attention, the more it feels like an unwelcome visitor, and bids you goodbye.
Stop comparing yourself with others who are fearless in a particular aspect. Suppose, you are scared of driving, and you compare yourself with a friend who is adept in it. Who knows, she might be scared of swimming, while you may be a water-baby.
Start taking baby steps to overcome your fears. Nope, this is not a technique I am writing about; it is just going out there, opening the car door, and sitting at the driver’s seat. The next day, do all of the former, and also tie your seat belt, and so on. If on any day, you don’t want to do one more baby step, don’t stress. Repeat the previous day’s ones and be happy. But be at it. Don’t stop. Do it naturally. Think about the outcomes of overcoming your fears. Never think about the FEAR. The moment you stop feeding it with energy, it will die its natural death and leave your body.
So there you go! Live fearless! Live happy!
Suparna Sinha
http://everpositive.blogspot.com/
